Happiness

In his book, Authentic Happiness, Martin Seligman has many suggestions for improving one's happiness. As we pause to celebrate Mother's Day I thought some of his suggestions were particularly pertinent.

In referring to the past Seligman points out that "insufficient appreciation and savoring of the good events in your past and overemphasis of the bad ones are the two culprits that undermine serenity, contentment, and satisfaction." As we celebrate our families of origin remember the smiles and laughter. Possessing gratitude for the love and care others have shown allows us to look back on our past in a way that enhances our present happiness. Being thankful is not just a platitude but a strategy that promotes happiness.

Living mindfully in the present can also help us live more happily. As we quickly move about our day we are often focused on the future; what we have to do next, where we have to be in an hour, what is due tomorrow, and take little time to savor the present. Today was the first truly sunny day of the month. The flowering trees and shrubs of southern New England were in their glory. The lovely scent of lilacs and viburnam wafted through the air. In places a snowfall of petals lined the streets and driveways. I took a few moments to walk the neighborhood and really look at the flowers and appreciate the colors and smells. Savoring, fully appreciating, the gift that spring is after the long gray months of winter.

Happy Mother's Day!